Why Young Men Aren’t Getting Married


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With the partial legalization of infanticide in some parts of the country, it has become apparent to many that our nation is indeed in perilous times. The moral decadence in our society is akin to that of Rome’s in its later stages; the only substantial difference being that today our capacity to drown ourselves in bread and circus is far higher. The foundational element of our society, the family, is under attack from the forces of the Left, in the most subversive of ways- lacking any level of decency, courage, or integrity. While the divorce rates have significantly decreased (18%) since 2008, it is still safe to say that roughly 40% to 50% of marriages will end in divorce or separation these days. 70% of these divorces are initiated by women, and the leading cited factor in their decision to do so is currently, “lack of commitment” at 73%, which some could interpret as a simple lack of satisfaction. The primary reason why the divorce rate has gone down in recent years is due to the fact that people are simply getting married far less often.

Writing an article concerning the repulsive practice of late-term abortions and the unappealing nature of blue-haired feminists screaming about how a man explaining something to a woman contributes to, “rape culture,” is largely a waste of my time- considering how obviously off-putting these are to the general public, at least for now. These are only symptoms, mere late-stage manifestations of a deeper problem, something that we all know is there when we choose to make fun of the blue-haired feminist fanatics that only the most fringe elements will seriously defend. The truth is almost always less comfortable than an easy/safe target to mock. In this article, I am going to be examining the sexual marketplace for young men, and try to make sense of why so few are interested in marriage. Hopefully, I can help you understand why it is a rational decision to make for many young males. This article is aimed primarily at those who are already aware of the perilous nature of the collapse of the family unit in America.

Marriage and family are the highest value for men (in general) on a societal level. Historically, they have sacrificed their blood, sweat, and tears for the sake of those that they love- building the society that made such peaceful and loving relationships possible. If one were to take such an elemental building block of human achievement (such as the family unit is) away from men, then we would scarcely see any semblance of a civilization around us. The one thing that incentivizes men to sacrifice for their society, for the sake of its perpetuation, is now very much under attack by the forces of feminism.

Male Disposability Statistics

  • Men are 93% of workplace fatalities
  • Operation Enduring Freedom - American War and Military Operations Casualties: Male: 19,645, Female 383. (And before feminism, this differential was likely far more significant)
  • 76% of homicides – DOJ
  • First of all, we live in a society where the prevailing narrative is forced egalitarianism, or at least an attempt at doing so. This is attempted through the vessel of the state by voters who are otherwise committed to “science”, and admonish those who deny “climate science” as ignorant/backwards science deniers. Despite this, they make political decisions under the presupposition that all of evolution has produced no biological differences between the genders, other than those phenotypical ones that simply cannot be denied due to their conspicuous nature. These hypocritical science deniers ignore all statistical information that contradicts their presumptions that are fed to them through feminist propaganda. Women are the majority of voters (turning out 63.7% to men’s 59.8 in 2012), and the general societal deference to their preferences is thusly reflected.

    The Plight of Young Men

    Young males are in the worst social position possible for a man and his sexual market value. They are generally less physically attractive than they will be slightly later on in life (which tends to be the opposite of the female situation), they generally have almost no resources (in fact many are riddled with massive amounts of debt), they are filled with self-hating and anti-male propaganda through the culture that makes interactions with the opposite sex confusing and prone to high rates of failure, they are subject to toxic levels of hypergamy from women at their peak fertility and attractiveness in their own age group, they risk being falsely accused of rape if they do manage to become “intimate” with a girl, and if they chose to go through the traditional route and find a virtuous woman for marriage, they are faced with an extremely risky gamble in attempting to do so (especially if they are not able to break through the propaganda), as they run the significant risk of ending up as another divorced man whose life has been utterly destroyed. All of this certainly adds up to a precarious situation indeed, and not one that is envied by most. Although I understand there are notable exceptions to all of these, they are the reality for the vast majority of young males in the modern west, whether they consciously understand this or not.

    Dangers of Casual Sex Statistics

  • There are between 20,000 and 100,000 wrongly convicted still in prison for false accusations
  • Men are the overwhelming majority of rape victims due to prison, and getting falsely accused of rape could land them there.
  • Dangers of Marriage statistics

  • Men can be legally forced to take on the responsibilities of fatherhood in California regardless of whether the woman committed paternity fraud
  • 30% of those named as fathers – bilked of child support unjustly through Paternity fraud
  • 79.6% of custodial mothers receive a child support award
  • 29.9% of custodial fathers receive a child support award
  • 80 percent of court-ordered child custody cases
  • Nearly all attorneys (94% of male attorneys and 84% of female attorneys) said that all judges exhibited prejudice against fathers at least some of the time
  • Another survey, this one commissioned by the Minnesota Supreme Court, found that a majority (56%) of the state’s judges, both male and female, agreed with the statement, “I believe young children belong with their mother.”
  • Over 79 percent of custodial mothers receive a child support award, while just under 30 percent of custodial fathers receive one.
  • If a close friend gets divorced, you are 147% more likely to become divorced and 33% more likely if a friend of a friend is divorced.
  • Families with children that were not poor before the divorce see their income drop as much as 50 percent.
  • A new study entitled “Divorce and Death” shows that broken marriages can kill at the same rate as smoking cigarettes. Indications that the risk of dying is a full 23 percent higher among divorcées than married people.
  • The nation’s 1.4 million divorces in 2002 are estimated to have cost the taxpayers more than $30 billion.
  • Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation.
  • The divorce rate per 1000 married women is nearly double that of 1960, but down from the all-time high of 22.6 in the early 1980s.
  • Wives are the ones who most often file for divorce at 66 percent on average. That figure has soared to nearly 75 percent in some years.
  • The divorce rate among people 50 and older has doubled in the past 20 years, according to research by Bowling Green State University.
  • The divorce rate among couples where one spouse is in jail or prison for one year or more is 80 percent for men and close to 100 percent for women.
  • Women with 6 or more premarital sexual partners are almost 3 times less likely to be in a stable marriage.
  • Political affiliation and its impact on divorce: Conservatives are the least likely to be divorced: Conservative 28 percent, Liberal 37 percent, Moderate 33 percent. 46. If both you and your partner have had previous marriages, you are 90 percent more likely to get divorced than if this had been the first marriage for both of you.
  • 60 percent of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce.
  • Lack of commitment is the most common reason given by divorcing couples according to a recent national survey. Here are the reasons given and their percentages: Lack of commitment 73% Argue too much 56% Infidelity 55% Married too young 46% Unrealistic expectations 45% Lack of equality in the relationship 44% Lack of preparation for marriage 41% Domestic Violence or Abuse 25%
  • 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.
  • The United States has the 6th highest divorce rate in the world
  • Due to the natural process of hypergamy being inflamed by the current incentive structure that encourages high rates of promiscuity and a lower perception of the value of men in general, young men have it the worst. Hypergamy is the process of a female aiming up above her sexual market value to find the highest quality male that she can find. Hypergamy is inflamed by the prevalence of the welfare state diminishing the value of the average male as a provider, which permeates into the ethos of the society as well (ex: false perceptions of male “privilege”), and allowing women a newfound leverage in negotiations to care less about the “quality” or “virtue” of the man, and more about looks, status, and wealth. This creates a situation wherein Polyamory and Polygany both become increasingly more prevalent, while the bottom 80% in the sexual market for men are becoming increasingly less able to reproduce, (a stratification that socialists would abhor if it pertained to wealth). This situation has caused the prevalence of involuntary celibates or, “incels”. These incels will become a danger to the society if they continue to grow in numbers. Generally speaking, the value that men bring to a relationship tends to be centered around the resources and stability that he is able to provide.

    This is creating an underclass of angry and resentful men who have no true reason to sacrifice anything for a society that has at best ignored them, and at worst mocked them for their plight. Growing and resentful underclasses that go unchecked is how communist uprisings occur that destroy society. If you take away all of men’s societal value, this stratification will be the inevitable conclusion. This is not to say that women have no agency in the matter, however, they are not invulnerable to incentives, unless you run under the assumption that they are all nearly perfect moral agents. This presumption is akin to expecting all winners of the lottery to work just as much as those who are working to live.

    In addition to the welfare state diminishing men’s capacity to hold sexual market leverage, men’s declining wages relative to women’s also have drastically affected it as well, causing a record proportion of Americans to not even marry in the first place. Women are far less likely to marry men that earn less than they do, and since they are comparatively making more than men are due to various elements of modernity (various programs, cultural pressures, etc.) they are simply not as interested in getting married. Consequently, the family unit has been further degraded, and single motherhood is on the rise.

    A Visual Aid of Female Hypergamy in Mating Selection

    Social Spending Graphic

    This is in part why we have a culture that belittles the value of stay at home mothers, and endlessly romanticizes the joys and freedoms of the child-free cubicle life, and how liberating it is to have casual sex on the weekend and put off having children until it is too late. The latest push that validates my hypothesis came out of the daily telegraph in an article titled: “Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mum” . As you can now see, the madness will never end because just as Sarrah Le Marquand states: “it’s not about choice, it’s about equality”. She makes this statement of course, with no regard to how her policies would affect children or the family as a whole, and all for the sake of a word that has mysteriously been imbued with moral content; “equality”. It matters not that this mandate would essentially destroy families as we know it, and turn mothers into slaves of corporations and governments, (simply codifying that which they have already been working on achieving), because as long as we’re all the same, anything is apparently worth it.

    One of the worst aspects of this propaganda is that the women who are most susceptible to these talking points tend to be potentially very qualified mothers. The prevalence of single motherhood is directly causal in the exponentially worsening perpetuation of these problems.

    Notable single motherhood statistics

    Single mothers abuse at far higher rates than single fathers:

  • - Mother Involved But Not Father (70.6%)
  • - Father Involved But Not Mother (29.4%)
  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
  • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
  • 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average.
  • 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)
  • Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.
  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
  • 90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. [Wray Herbert, “Dousing the Kindlers,” Psychology Today, January, 1985, p. 28]
  • 90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
  • 71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. [U.S. Department of Health and Human Services press release, Friday, March 26, 1999]
  • 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
  • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
  • With notable anecdotal exceptions already assumed, there is no easy way out of this broken sexual marketplace for the vast majority of men in the modern age. These realities have fueled the flames of social degeneracy, decay, hopelessness, nihilism, high time preference hedonism, and a debt-based social welfare state with a sprinkle of politically correct corporatist virtue signaling to make us all feel a little bit more progressive and fun. This has the potential to serve as a means by which the very foundation of our society can be further destroyed, but it does not have to if those of us who know the truth can play our cards right.

    What Now?

    With all of this said, we need a generation of those willing to fight the necessary fight in order to stop those who have created the situation that we find ourselves in, and this is certainly not going to happen if those of us who are aware enough to seek out the truth decide to simply not reproduce, leaving the future to only those who have fallen even further into decadence. Giving up and leaving the future to our rivals is simply not an option for those of us who are interested in the perpetuation of civilization, and a future for our children. If unchecked, this will surely destroy our society to the point of collapse and utter catastrophe.

    It is my suspicion that there exists a demand for a conduit between men and women of good character, something that would filter out those who are on the extreme end of the “fallen state” spectrum. This is why I am in the purely conceptual stages of potentially developing some sort of an application or website that would meet said demand, to connect those who have chosen the path of virtue and righteousness, over that of degeneracy and hedonistic dopamine seeking. If we are able to form a counterculture of morally upstanding members, we will have the community and the direct incentives necessary (as a result of our children making us directly invested into the future) to save this civilization that our forefathers sacrificed blood and sweat to build for us, rather than pissing it all away and drugging ourselves with superficialities.

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